If it takes being stupid, be an absolute idiot

If wanting to change the world and being naive enough to try makes you naive, so be it. If thinking that your actions impact the world is insane, lock yourself in an asylum. If being a passionate social advocate is laughable, then be a comedian.  Dilution is for homeopathic remedies, chemistry labs and alcoholic beverages – … More If it takes being stupid, be an absolute idiot

The power of self-inflicted hardship (A 2007/2017 decade special)

“I’m a real believer in retrospective fun. The fun you have remembering the shitty thing that happened.” – Cheryl Strayed, on The Tim Ferriss Show  Without any hesitation, if someone were to ask me what the most formative experience of my life has been, I would have only one word: camp. I was 12 when I first … More The power of self-inflicted hardship (A 2007/2017 decade special)

The subconscious drive behind people-pleasing

What is the difference between a genuinely nice person, and a people-pleaser? On the surface, they can look very much the same. They both have the same intention: to be a good person. But the people-pleaser takes this one step further, and ties their intention to something insidious: the subconscious desire to make people happy -independent of themselves.  On … More The subconscious drive behind people-pleasing

Self-deception: why you shouldn’t trust yourself after all

You can trust yourself completely and unquestionably, right? You know that no matter what, you have your own back. It’s others we have to be weary of; trust is only uncertain when it comes to our relationships with them. Like a distortion mirror, self-deception allows you to see what you wish to see. Self-deception protects you from confronting personal … More Self-deception: why you shouldn’t trust yourself after all

The Infinite Here

A light-hearted poem about how much it sucks to not be able to enjoy a cup of tea without productivity guilt. The Infinite Here it’s in those moments, we hear the sit, stay, just be still so we sit for a while and decide to chill but we feel a pang of guilt for allowing relaxation … More The Infinite Here

The Mistake of Monopolizing Mistake-Making

  “Let him make his own mistakes; that’s the only way he will learn.” This trite cultural norm of monopolizing mistake-making is accepted as the gold standard of learning. We senselessly encourage each other to make as many mistakes as possible – and while this advice is well-intentioned, it is sadly misinformed. Imagine trekking down a hill, … More The Mistake of Monopolizing Mistake-Making